Dealing with Deep Seeded Trauma

Dealing with Deep Seeded Trauma

Many people know that today, September 27th, is the anniversary of my firstborn daughter’s death. 

What many people don’t know is-it is not her death itself that haunts me- 

We knew from the moment we found out about her fatal congenital heart defect when I was five months pregnant that the chances of a happily ever after were slim to none. We chose life at the time anyways- whatever that was going to look like for however long it was going to be. 

So when we chose an experimental surgery to try when she was born we were given some unexpected hope. It was this hope we were not prepared for- 

We went from grieving to hoping she was going to make it- and she actually did for two whole months- we were gifted 60 additional days with her- but when left us- it was sudden and I wasn’t there with her. That is what haunts me.

You see the day she died played out like a scene from a sad sad lifetime movie- 

We had finally believed she would be okay- I was preparing to return to work so my husband and I decided to go out for a date. The first one in ages. We left Azaria with a babysitter.  We were only planning to be gone long enough to see a movie-

Before the movie I excitedly ran into a shop and bought her birth announcements- I tucked them happily away in my purse and we went to the theater. 

The movie was just about over when a worker came in and announced he was looking for me- he said there was an emergency. I looked at my husband and just knew.

The ER doctor’s words haunt me. “She’s gone” I remember thinking “but I have the announcements”.

When I was pregnant I thought about her dying and how I would hold her until her last breath- 

That day has been a day hard to think about over the years- the deep hurt is one I am not sure will ever fully heal but I have found two essential oils to be very healing. There is a whole science as to why essential oils would help- I have another post on my blog that goes into more depth.

There was a study out of New York University that proved the amygdala gland ( the gland in the limbic system of the brain that stores and releases trauma in the body) does not respond to sound or sight or touch, but ONLY releases emotional trauma through the sense of smell."

I am so thankful for  these two therapeutic oils of choice and use them weekly at minimum. If you are interested in more information please reach out.

Oils and Emotions

Oils and Emotions
We all know essential oils smell so good, but not many people really research the powerful benefits they really have, especially in the area of our emotions and emotional health.
One of the very first reference books I bought outside of the essential oils reference guide was the book by Carolyn Mein titled Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils.  This book is an excellent resource discussing emotions and essential oils. 
Here is an Excerpt that just blows my mind every time I read it
"Have you ever noticed how smells, like bread baking, can send you back to a childhood memory and all the feelings associated with your favorite grandmother? Smell accesses the limbic system of the brain which is the seat of our emotions. Ancient Egyptians used essential oils to clear specific emotions and recorded them on the walls of certain temple healing chambers.

Sesquiterpenes, found in high levels in essential oils such as Frankincense and Sandalwood, help to increase the oxygen in the limbic system of the brain which in turn "unlocks" the DNA and allows emotional baggage to be released from cellular memory. Emotions have been found to be encoded within the DNA of the cells and passed on from generation to generation. Emotional behavior patterns have even been found to be "locked" within families. Transplant recipients report strange memories and desires which further  substantiates that emotions are stored in the body and encoded in the DNA of the cells. More recently, studies at New York University proved the amygdala gland ( the gland in the limbic system of the brain that stores and releases trauma in the body) does not respond to sound or sight or touch, but ONLY releases emotional trauma through the sense of smell."

If you are interested in learning more-message me for an invite to my virtual workshop this coming Wednesday on Emotionsl and Essential Oils. It will be at 8:30pm est.

Emotional Support Oils For Kids

Emotional Support Oils For Kids
We are living in difficult times, and I want to share a few tips for talking with children about difficult world events, and share my favorite oils for emotional support for kids.

1. Be in charge of what and how your child sees and hears by limiting their exposure to news so you can decide what and how to share with your children. If they are exposed to news stories and feel scared or unsure, Valor is a wonderful oil to help calm and ground them.

2. When exposure is unavoidable, share basic facts about what happened at an age-appropriate level. In situations where kids see things first hand, or if they internalize scary stories, Peace & Calming is a good oil to help them return to a state of peacefulness.

3. Reinforce that you will do all you can to keep them safe, and model healthy coping habits like meditation or prayerful gratitude. Seedlings Calm can help kids wind down and practice short meditations or prayers.

Hope this is helpful, and I'd love to hear any tips you might have!